Coherent heart rhythms benefit our health, happiness and the capacity to create a positive life experience. Having a practice that works with creating heart coherence (Heartmath techniques) expands the heart’s energy and positively affects physical, metal and emotional well being. In addition it is also important to know how to let go of what disturbs our nervous system coherence. None of us are going to go through life always feeling good so it is helpful to know how to let go of things that we find unpleasant. Letting go is different than denial of the unpleasant. Understanding the function and process involved in the concepts of surrender and acceptance can add to our resources for managing stress and creating nervous system coherence.
Understanding Surrender and Acceptance
In our culture the word surrender is often loaded with negative connotations, such as giving up, wimping out, being weak, unable to cut it. However, surrender in the context of stress management, psychological well being and spiritual development is pointing to a deep release of struggle and conflict. Acceptance is about meeting reality, accepting what is in the moment, not holding onto resistance or fighting reality even as we seek to change it. Acceptance is not agreeing that all is well or the way we’d prefer, it is acknowledgement of what is in front of us so we can rise to the challenge of changing what can be changed and move beyond what is not working.
Surrender helps to bring your heart into coherence through the inner peace and calm it generates. To truly surrender we need to let go of wanting, yearning, wishing, needing and directing. When we are in these states, our focus is on what we feel we don’t have. We are in a vibration of lack or scarcity and create chaos in our brain and nervous system.
Sometimes we become stuck and even paralyzed by these feelings. Since our energy reflects our inner state, IT is stuck, paralyzed, not moving, so it holds us in place rather than moving freely so it can be channeled in a stronger, more positive direction.
For techniques that help with surrender and acceptance check out our recording: Letting Go: The Heart of Healing