Challenges to Healing Our Heart
False beliefs, mis-perceptions and the emotional imbalances that lie within them contribute to ill health, unhappiness and lack of success. It follows that when we dissolve or heal the emotional trigger, we heal ourselves. It sounds easy. My experience is that it is a life-long process! However it is a process that gets easier and leads to more lightness, freedom and ease as we gain skills.
A curious and non-judgmental attitude to every event, interaction and relationship can lead to learning, growth and enhancement of all that we truly wish to bring toward us in life.
Unconsciousness and Change of Heart
One of the dilemmas to healing is that the root causes of the triggers are often held in our subconscious, out of our awareness. So how can we deal with something that we aren’t even aware of? This is the Catch 22, the ago-old dilemma. After all, if we were aware of what needed to change, we could choose to change it. Correct? We could also save ourselves a lot of anguish, money, time and energy along the way.
Perhaps one of the problems is that we are using the wrong approach and incorrect tools. Rather than try to continually “do” something or “fix” yourself, maybe the solution is really to simply let go of all that is false and open to the space of your authentic self. This begins with accepting wherever you’re at right now. Accept and acknowledge how you are truly feeling.What needs to occur so you can heal/release this feeling?
Once you accept things as they are, resistance falls away and a shift toward healing into wholeness begins.
Responsibility, Perception and Mirrors
Accepting things as they are requires accepting personal responsibility for your role in it. This includes your perception of what is happening as well as your reaction to the world around you, particularly judgment of others. Play with the concept that others around you mirror what is happening and provide clues about what you need to accept, acknowledge, shift or change. Play with the concept that no one does anything to you. Those around you are merely a catalyst for things you are doing to yourself or aspects of yourself that you have hidden away. Acceptance and forgiveness provide the way out.
Play with the concept of softening your heart; practice being aware of your experiences and your feelings. Your feelings provide clues as to what needs to happen for your healing. Any negative, low, tense or dense feelings indicate opportunities for change. Lighter, higher, and happier feelings move you up the scale towards unconditional love.
Healing our hearts in not about always being happy. We are human. We will have ups and downs throughout our lives. If you can genuinely experience three times as many ups as downs, though, you will be well on your way to healing your heart.
Happiness builds resiliency. Resiliency helps ride the waves of life without collapsing or becoming wiped out by life.