Energy imbalances or distortions in our chakras and energy field lead to problems with our thoughts, feelings and actions. How we experience ourselves, life and others is mediated through our energy field. The impulse that is registered in the energy field gets transferred to the nervous system and the rest of our body and mind.
Unbalanced heart energies as experienced in relationships may be best known as codependency. Codependency is a term used to describe a relationship between people where there is an expectation that the other will “make them whole” or provide what was “lost” at an earlier stage of life. It seems that this could describe our modern day understanding/approach to relationships, but the term co-dependency helps to describe it and begin to develop the awareness necessary to move to a place where our relationships can become life enhancing and nourishing for all.
Energy Imbalances: Inside and Outside
Instead of looking within at a wounded part of oneself and healing it, codependents search externally for the answer to their pain and healing. This circumvents development of a whole, healthy sense of self and a real ability to function freely in the world. The reasons for codependency vary widely, are typically unconscious, and rooted in deep beliefs and family legacies. Until recently codependency was a typical pattern of how relationships evolved and unfolded in our western world.
Below our heart chakra are three chakras associated with the lower self or mind. These three chakras are: the root located at the base of the spine; the sacral located above that and below the navel; the solar plexus located between the navel and the tip of the breastbone. Unbalanced energies in these energy centers manifest generally as preoccupations anchored in fear, misdirected passion, power struggles and identity problems. These areas obviously cause us their own concerns but they also can add to the difficulty of having healthy heart energy.
Energy Imbalances and the Heart Chakra
It is in the heart that we have the ability to move beyond the judgment and analysis of the intellect into acceptance, compassion and wisdom. As we ground our energy and center within our hearts, we transcend or move beyond the ego where our thoughts feed emotions such as fear, anxiety, guilt, shame all emotions that don’t feel good and deplete our energy system.
When you are in your heart you develop a sense of inner peace, presence and a capacity for deep, unconditional love. You effortlessly surrender to the vast and expansive inner silence. Judgment is absent. You might find yourself expressing deep compassion, empathy, care, kindness and forgiveness for yourself and others, without judgment or critique. Judgment is an attribute of the ego and your mind. It is not of the heart.
Having a loving heart is a state of being that we develop through awareness, consciousness, focused learning, honest self- evaluation and commitment.
The rewards/benefits of Healing Energy Imbalances:
Emotional peace and freedom
Forgiveness of self and others (unconditionally, all transgressions, are of the mind or ego)
Dissolution of negativity dissolves
Creation of space for nurture of self and others
Openness to extending honest, true love to others
When addressing any level of growth and development, it helps me to remember that we are always becoming and not arriving –progress not perfection! Persistent kindness with ourselves is always a good idea!