Reduce stress with self reflection
What if you had a friend who followed you all day and criticized, blamed, belittled and judged you for real, imagined and future possibilities of making a misstep in some area of your life? Would you continue to spend time with and listen to that friend? Probably not. However, the voice in your head that does the same as this fictional friend….what about it?
This friend for most of us took up residence in our subconscious without invitation or notice a long time ago. we have been aware of its presence but have never taken steps to give it its walking papers!
Reduce stress by evicting that critical voice
The negativity that this voice proliferates ad infinitum (it does not seem to run out of gas…or maybe it does and that is why it can be silent for awhile…it is refueling for the next round! We may think because the voice is only “in our heads” that it has no real effect, but it does. These inner events have a specific quality of energy that affects us as well as those around us. Not only that but they drag down our healthy vitality and make it harder to realize positive emotion, perception and outcomes.
These “negative vibes” pollute our inner and outer environment, create dissonance in our energy systems and make it difficult to move forward, succeed at our goals or experience happiness or pleasure.
Reduce stress by correcting energy disruptions
Energy disruptions precede our negative thinking, moods and impeded our well-being. We can remedy this and keep our energy strong, coherent and flowing with some self-directed loving-kindness.
- Notice when you are judging yourself. Rather than become frustrated because you are doing it again, pause, take a deep breath and intentionally feel releasing the tension and inner conflict created by the judgments.
- Judgments don’t feel good. We don’t feel good whether those judgments are about ourselves or others. See if you can feel a difference between judgment and observation. Observation helps us to notice what needs to be let go of and what can be kept as learning.
- We are not in the world to fix or redirect others. We all have a soul path to walk. It can be helpful to develop discernment through observation in order to learn.
- Notice what happens around you. Notice the result of different actions and reactions. Notice what works and what doesn’t work. Notice what is effective and not effective. Notice what is beneficial to you and what is not. Practice noticing without judgment.
- Be conscious and choose to put your energy into what works best for you and those situations and experiences that bring you joy.
- Be gentle and practice persistent kindness with yourself.
- Treat yourself the way you wish others treated you.
- Go easy. Know that you are doing your best and you will do better when you are able.
- Being harsh or unforgiving wreaks havoc on your energy, mind and body. Practice self appreciation.
- As an antidote to judgment, fear and criticism practice feeling open, available, and present to life. Your energy will become stronger as a result then it will become easier to release any mental or emotional negativity.