Self Care skill comes from having many different methods to manage and reduce the stress in our lives.
Both enhanced mental and emotional intelligence help improve our capacity for healthy self care.
Methods that add to clarity allow us to move to greater inner freedom, peace and happiness.
Self Care Skill #1 Perspective
We have all heard the idea that what irritates us in others is something that we embody. I suspect there is some truth in that , but my experience suggests that there’s a viewpoint that offers a broader perspective. For instance, if you encounter a bully the issue may not be that you hold bullying tendencies inside. It may be that you have a need to grow in your own power. I think that to take what you see in front of you too literally as to what the learning may be can lead off track rather than to a place of growth.
1. When you find yourself irritated by others, look inside to learn more about what was triggered in you. As you note what was triggered, let yourself sit with that quietly and allow whatever feelings are there to drift to the surface. Having a notebook handy where you can record your findings is helpful.
2. Once you are aware of the core issue, reflect on what if anything needs to be done, then consciously focus on releasing any remaining difficult feelings from your mind, body and spirit.
You can also try releasing the feelings first and then asking for the core issue to come to the forefront of your mind. Each person operates differently and getting to know your inner process is as much a part of expanding consciousness and self knowledge as learning skills.
3. As you discover the core issue you can craft an affirmation that fits the situation. No matter what the circumstances an affirmation that focuses on self acceptance, non judgement and self love always works! E.G. I lovingly allow feelings of internal support to flow through me today. Reminder….the words are pointers only. The important part is to feel the feeling and allow it to take up resonance within you.