Recently in my yoga class the teacher asked what our relationship to patience was. My quick answer was –conflicted! More thought brought the awareness that that was not a complete answer. There are places where I have infinite patience, and then others where it is in moderate supply and then those where there is NONE AT ALL! So maybe conflicted did in a way describe that concoction. But even more important I realized what a wonderful question that is “What is your relationship to______.” We can fill in the blank with words like: surrender, acceptance, compassion, self- compassion, spirit, emotion, physical body, self- image, self- worth, self- esteem, and on and on.
The reason I think it is such a wonderful question is that it softly invites greater self- inquiry in a way that helps discover greater truth, deeper wisdom and broader self- acceptance in the midst of growth. If I just think about those words and whether I have them, or need them then there is a tendency toward self- judgment, or a sense of inner struggle as I think about how I am failing, lacking or what I need to do to rectify the situation.
When I think about my relationship to those kinds of qualities, a door opens in my mind and I am free to explore without judgment or become tied up in the knots of conflict, or bad feelings that only serve to stymie any forward movement, self- knowledge or growth along the lines of my personal freedom.
As I understand things as they tend to affect energy, it occurs to me that this type of open inquiry opens the field and so allows for more information to emerge thus facilitating positive change and growth rather than a shutting down in response to judgment, struggle or negative feelings..
Maybe it is just me though! I am really interested in knowing whether this is a personal fluke or whether others have a similar or different experience how do you respond to this kind of question?
Addendum: Speaking of yoga, I recently learned about this site that has some excellent information related to yoga and everyday life. You may find it interesting.