Being a friend to your SELF is no mere metaphor or purely sentimental idea. It is the basis of all relationships, because it is a fundamental recognition of soul.” Thomas Moore
1. Listen to how you speak to yourself Turn up the volume on your self-talk. Become aware of the voices in your head. Let go of self-bashing, —the overt and the subtle. Commit to shifting to kinder gentler thoughts. Stop self-abuse!
2. Make time for real self-care (VS self-indulgence). Begin by discerning what is self-indulgent and what is truly caring for yourself. What do you need in terms of basic care? How can you begin to make time for these basic needs to build a strong foundation so you can expand in freedom and expression of your best self?
3. Listen more deeply to your true voice and your real needs How can you give yourself time and space to listen deeply and acquaint yourself with the real you?
4. Be compassionate with yourself, you are a work in progress We are continually learning, growing and developing as human beings whether we are conscious of it or not. Becoming more conscious and aware can smooth the journey. We can only be where we are at any given moment in time mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Start from where you are and be tolerant and patient with your learning curve. Actively work at embracing an inner feeling of ease with yourself rather than having it remain an unembodied thought.
5. Make time for enlivening your soul What brings you alive? What nourishes you at a deep level? Can you commit to providing time and space to find out and then allow that into your life?