Times of change and uncertainty provide ripe ground for our fears and personal myths to emerge.
Instead of allowing them to remain out of awareness where they are free to create chaos or employing ineffective means to manage and control them, we can choose methods that provide us a way out a way to personal emotional freedom and inner balance.
Willingness to try a different approach, patience for the learning curve and a commitment to be gentle and kind to your self will benefit you in all areas of your life.
Self care needs to be tailored to your unique needs. When you spend time getting to know yourself, you can try many different things and learn what works best for you.
Here are some questions that can help you define your specific needs and be able to reduce your stress:
Where am I too attached to outcomes? What are my fears about not being in control? What is the worst thing that can happen when my expectations are not met ?
Where and why do I care too much? What are my beliefs around self sacrifice?
Where are my personal boundaries and responsibilities? Where do I allow my boundaries to be violated?
Are my expectations of self and other realistic? What are those expectations?
If I change my way of approaching this situation, what is my worst fear? Is it realistic? What are healthy alternatives?