We are well on our way into the New Year with all those things that we set goals and intentions around changing. Along with what we say we want to achieve or accomplish it can be helpful to think about what would like to let go.
In some cases these may be intentions or goals in themselves but framed in a softer kinder way. In other cases they may be things that support and help our main resolutions.
Things that I think of immediately when I think about letting go are: self -blame, self- criticism, self-judgment and perfectionism!
When we integrate the feeling of letting go we open our energy up and greater strength is available to bring to our creative efforts. Letting go…the actual inner state allows grace and courage to bubble up from within to support us on our way.
Understanding Surrender and Acceptance
Let’s examine SURRENDER. In our culture this word is loaded with negative connotations, such as giving up, wimping out, being weak, unable to cut it. However, surrender in the context that we are using it is a deep feeling of letting go of struggle and conflict: it is about accepting what is in the moment, not fighting it – accepting the reality even as we seek to change it.
Surrender helps to bring your heart into coherence through the inner peace and calm it generates. To truly surrender we need to let go of wanting, yearning, wishing, needing and directing. When we are in these states, our focus is on what we feel we don’t have. We are in a vibration of lack or scarcity.
Sometimes we become stuck and even paralyzed by these feelings. Since our energy reflects our inner state, it is stuck, paralyzed, not moving, so it holds us in place rather than moving freely so it can be channeled in a stronger, more positive direction.
When our focus is on what is missing from our lives, we create more of what we feel we don’t have. We create more of what is missing.
Developing an attitude of acceptance – acceptance of the way things ARE – enables you to move beyond patterns of resistance and bring peace to your heart. Acceptance does not mean that something or someone is right or wrong. Acceptance is acknowledging things just the way they are now. It’s just allowing them to be, without judgment. Judgments tear at our energy and does us much more harm than the person, place or thing that we are judging.
How can letting go, surrender and acceptance help you with your new year hopes and dreams?